Two by Two, the Path of Friendship

friends…one of God’s many blessings


According to the book of Proverbs, what color hair is a Crown of Splendor?

Red, answered the first team competing on The Great American Bible Challenge.

A few minutes later, the second team appeared and were asked the same question.

Red, they replied.

Gray! I shouted at the TV with a chuckle.

Their answers delighted me.

I am a redhead after all. Mother of 2 redheads.

Times have changed.

In this case, for the better.

I was teased horribly for my bright red hair.

Adult women who felt sorry for me assured me I could dye it when I was older.

(Now that I am older and have the crown of splendor, I do dye it – back to the color of my youth.)

Just keepin’ it honest here!


Today, our daughters have friends & complete strangers stroking their strawberry locks as if they were a lucky charm.


I was made fun of not only for my hair…but for my…

turned-up nose…

space between my front teeth…

shag haircut (remember those? what were our moms thinking??)…

morals and faith values…

being the new girl in school…

…the painful list goes on and on.

The words and faces of my bullies still echo some years later.


A few months into second grade, I was transferred to a school that offered an advanced curriculum.

Many changes in my life then. I questioned where I belonged.

I cried daily at school.

Some 30+ years later I can hear the teacher condemning me.

Ordering me into the coatroom to avoid hearing my cries.

These new classmates of mine would make excuses to retrieve items from the coatroom.

They suddenly needed pencils and paper and their forgotten homework from their bookbags.

Their pencil tips suddenly would break demanding a trip to the sharpener…inside the coatroom.

These friends that I barely knew came to comfort me.


Gum chewing was forbidden in my fifth grade class.

The toughest kid in the class, who was consistently disrespectful to our teacher and rude towards me, chose to chew his gum anyway.

After being asked firmly several times, he complied and placed the gum on his nose.

The entire class laughed.

Amongst the 35 or so students, I became an easy target for his revenge.

That day I was late for lunch and walked into the cafeteria alone.

He walked past and punched me with all his might in the gut.

I dropped.

Immediately 2 of my friends picked me up off the floor.

They escorted me to the school office, while loudly condemning him.


Jesus used the power of two.

 So he sent two of his disciples…

~Mark 14:13


A few years later in junior high, a teacher left me in charge of her class.

I grew up in a major city with large class sizes, usually the smallest kid in class.

I simply kept my head down and worked.

The boy behind me began making rude comments towards me as usual.

I ignored him; wishing the teacher would return soon.

He defiantly stood and walked around the room.

I could hear him snicker,  just as I felt a strange sensation on my head.

I lifted my head slightly as brown pencil shavings fell to my desk.

He emptied the entire pencil sharpener over my head!

I was paralyzed with disbelief and embarrasement.

Two of my closest friends at that time, Jeanette and Carol, sprung into action.

One held the trash can while the other gently combed through my hair.

Carol gave the boy a tongue lashing so severe he never glanced my way again…ever.


A young teen in a nearby community killed himself this past weekend.

I didn’t have the privilege of knowing him. I heard he was a fantastic kid.

Don’t know the circumstances of his shortened life.

I have read he was a victim of bullying.

A flood of emotions come over me.

I wish I had the answers.

I don’t.

I do know that when I was bullied, having 2 friends coming forward together to stand by my side made the world of difference in my life.

Two people are better than one, because they get more done by working together.

~Ecclesiastes 4:9 (NCV)

I taught my daughters from an early age:

If you see someone being bullied and choose to do nothing, you are as guilty as the bully.

I wish I would have added:

Find a friend to stand with you. Stand strong. Stand firm. Stand together.


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5 comments to Two by Two, the Path of Friendship

  • Kathy

    I just read today’s Bible Verse in the sidebar: “Even to your old age and gray hairs I am he, I am he who will sustain you. I have made you and I will carry you; I will sustain you and I will rescue you.” ~Isaiah 46:4
    So relevant to my post.
    Thank you Father for carrying me!

  • I’m so glad I found you! LOVE what you said about being as guilty as the bully if you do nothing. I teach my daughter the same. Thanks so much for sharing on Blog Hop Social!


    • Kathy

      Hello Katie! I just found your comment in my spam folder. (I need to check that more often as this isn’t the first time a “real” comment was put there.) I am very happy you’ve stopped by. Please come back for another visit soon! ~Kathy (ps I love the Blog Hop Social!)

  • Bullying is so wrong but friends are such a blessing. I’m glad the Lord faithfully provided for you in your time of need. Thank you for sharing your story at WJIM. Blessings.

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